Gracie, You're Driving Me Crazy
Mar. 9th, 2026 10:59 pmFed the beasts their crunchies, but the dogs flipped over Bella’s bowl. I’ll clean it up later.
Bella grabbed Gracie’s toy. Uh-oh. But Gracie was play-biting me a bit hard, and Bella swooped in to play with her. Thank you Bella.
I was trying to fall asleep but my mind wouldn’t shut off. Then I realized that I hadn’t taken my nighttime meds. The Olanzapine usually knocks me out. Got up and took them.
I overslept my alarm, and Gracie woke me up at 8:30 AM.
I scheduled my ultrasound, and it was scheduled out until May, so they don't seem to be too concerned.
I fed the cats. I gave Zara the Birdie and Louie food, and Lily abandoned her food to lick the B&L can. I think that I'm getting a clear message to feed them all the B&L food. I'll have to see if there's a chicken flavor too. (There is. Ordered.) I have a box and a half of the old food. I'll feed Oliver and Lily the half-box and switch them to the B&L food. I'll save the full box for my emergency stash of food, which I'm trying to accumulate.
Showered. Gracie STILL doesn't want to come in.
I finally got the dogs in at 3:30 PM! I grabbed a leash and the garage keys, but Bella ran out when I opened the door. They took the bait of running around the garage, and I closed the door, which confused Gracie enough to get a leash on her. I got her inside, but Bella didn't want to come in. I used treats to get Bella to come in. Whew.
I'm dragging, but I managed to finish a project at work. I need to stay awake through choir.
Hmm. I'm looking at a cheap bidet on Amazon. Eventually I want a heated bidet and toilet seat, but need to replace the toilet in the warm bathroom first. This is cold but will do for now. And it especially will help because I have IBS. I use a ton of toilet paper.
Choir went well. We don’t have rehearsal next week due to Spring Break.
Got us all fed. I need to wind down to get some sleep. Monday nights are always hard because I get home late and have been under florescent lighting.
Seed Starting
Mar. 9th, 2026 06:52 pmI'm hoping this week it'll be warm enough out that I can get some compost into the garden so it's all prepped when plants are ready to go in. We've already had crocuses and daffodils up for a few weeks, but we also had a frost this morning, so it's still a little early for most things. Unpredictable March! I've got big plans for some of the space this year, but we'll see how much I actually manage to get done. So far I'm mostly working on clearing out the cabinets so I have space for harvests later in the season. I made some tincture blends on Saturday to consolidate some jars, and used up some oils for salve yesterday. I'll have to spend a lot of time over the next couple of months drinking tea to work through my stash of dried herbs. There are worse fates!
The community garden has gotten started too, and I spent some time there today weeding and clearing out dead plants. I took an extra parsley and some stray borage home with me. I've never gotten borage to take in my garden, but I've tried putting it in a different location this time and maybe it'll settle in.
Conversion therapy mandated for trans inmates in federal prisons
Mar. 9th, 2026 09:42 pm( My friend's letter, posted with permission )
It looks like I'm not getting my g.e.d
Mar. 9th, 2026 09:14 pmDoes anyone know of ways to go to free college without a highschool diploma or g.e.d? Someone has to know.
My day
Mar. 9th, 2026 10:43 pmI had a lot to do today: a kinda tricky day at work, walking Teddy, making dinner, visiting a friend, and I wanted to go to the gym.
And I did all of it! And some chores like moving heavy things around, finalizing the grocery delivery that'll come tomorrow, and doing laundry.
Feels good.
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Mar. 9th, 2026 08:11 pmIt continues to humble me. Today I learned I am incapable of 60 seconds of jumping jacks. A full minute is a surprisingly long time!
I'm sticking with it quite well, though. There have been some breaks here and there due to illness and travelling, but I've been doing it every day as much as possible. It's not difficult when it's only ten to fifteen minutes.
I'm going to keep adding days to the beginner's program for as long as possible. It's plenty difficult thank you very much. I don't feel at all ready for intermediate, and I am downright frightened of advanced!
Monday
Mar. 9th, 2026 08:31 amThe laundry is laundrying and I'm pretty much caught up on everything.
I'd really like to find out what's up with the car and get it fixed but since I really am in no rush and I'm sure their Mondays are stressful enough, I'll probably wait and take it in tomorrow.
Bonny texted yesterday and wanted to go to happy hour at a nice local restaurant. I wasn't interested but said yes anyway. I wasn't doing anything and the place is nice and Bonny really needed a distraction. She's having a battle with her daughter and it needs to be over before May 4 when Bonny gets her new hip. I don't know the details but I do know she's stressing over it. We had a drink and happy hour food. I ate more than I wanted to but it was good. And nice to get home before dark.
In my quest to find thin sliced bread, I picked up a loaf of Keto bread. Turns out Keto is another word for tasteless. Yuck. That stuff is not worth the calories. I tried it toasted, air fried and straight out of the bag. Nothing made it better. No more Keto bread for me! I've kind of lost my taste for sandwiches anyway. And I found other thin bread for toast.
Oh! They are planting 3 new trees just outside my window. Right now!
I need to find a book to read. My last three have been losers including one of my favorite authors with a new book in a series I used to like. The Seattle Library has this very cool feature - Your Next 5 Books. You fill out a form and a librarian does your research. I'm waiting for results. Please please please don't tell them I no longer live in Seattle. Also there is Book DNA. I need to refresh my toberead list.
EDIT: Also Meet New Books
I just got an email from a woman in admin who is not the sharpest tool in the drawer, actually I think she's not even actually in the drawer but anyway. Her email says my email attachment (sent last week) did not come through AND she cannot read it. And she included 3 heart emojis. I so want to sent a heart with a bullet hole in it. Instead, I'll just think good thoughts about Timber Ridge the 'challenged' an opportunity.
Ooops laundry is done. I need to get the stuff hung before it wrinkles.

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Mar. 9th, 2026 04:03 pmAge: 30s
I mostly post about: Daily life - my thoughts, things I'm up to, things I've created (I'm an artist), my travels, movies I've watched, photos I've taken. The mundane and anything that grabs my interest. I try to find whimsy in everyday life, and I probably think too deeply about a lot of stuff.
My hobbies / interests are: Drawing, journaling on paper and stationery in general, reading fiction, watching movies, musical theatre, EGL fashion, playing The Sims 4 and Animal Crossing, Lego, learning languages, traveling whenever I can (usually on my own), and whatever actor I might be obsessed with at the moment.
I'm looking to meet people who: Thoughtful people who have similar interests and values. I'm looking for community and people I can connect with. I'm feeling very burnt out from social media and how loud and demanding it is with people just observing each other and nothing ever going any deeper than that. I miss feeling like I had actual friends on the internet, and learning about people's lives from all over.
My posting schedule tends to be: Whenever I feel like. Sometimes that might be daily, sometimes weekly. I try not to post any less than that.
When I add people, my deal breakers are: Bigots. People who exclusively post about fandom, fanfic, or book reviews and little else. As an artist, I'm anti-AI. And just mean, judgemental types, I don't have space for that kind of attitude in my life. Be kind or get out.
Before adding me, you should know: I have C-PTSD, hEDS, and I'm neurodivergent. I don't talk about these things much, but they exist in the background and shape much of my world.
Oh My, Fair Lady
Mar. 9th, 2026 01:00 pmOK, everyone! It's time to channel your best Eliza Doolittle!
All I want is a womb somewhere
(STAT!)
I wish you people wouldn't stare
(Excuse me! I'm gestating here!)
Maybe a slit right there?
Now, woooouldn't that be loverly?
There'll be leftovers you won't eat
(Hey! This cake was half off!)
Might I suggest a piece wif feet?
(Cannibalism goes down so much better when it's camouflaged.)
Moms are a tasty treat
("Mom-to-be gets the first slice!")
Aren't beeeeelly cakes just...
(hurk)
...loverly?
Wombfelt thanks to Chris W., Angela P., Dotty McK., Nurse Katie, Tia B., Jes R., and Sasha H., who really know how to deliver a great picture.
*****
And from my other blog, Epbot:
International Women's Day Belated Post
Mar. 9th, 2026 11:33 amI am given to understand that there is a campaign afoot to get a Blue Plaque for Dame Rebecca, as, quite shamefully, there is not one already.
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Dorset Archives Trust seeks donations for archive catalogue: we feel they might foreground rather more than they do that this is for the papers of Sylvia Townsend Warner???
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The Woman Who Invented the Penny Bank - I do not think I had heard of Priscilla Wakefield before.
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Ladies of the Lights: Female Lighthouse Keepers in the UK and the US (Of course I knew about Grace Darling, even before Jessica Mitford wrote about her.)
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Sadder stories of women: Hidden lives of female prisoners past and present:
The lives of female prisoners in the 19th Century and those experiencing the criminal justice system today are not dissimilar, a charity worker has said.
An exhibition at Newcastle Cathedral is documenting the untold stories from female prisoners at the former Newcastle Prison, which stood in the city's Carliol Square between 1828-1925.
Volunteers from a family history group have begun transcribing the records of at least 6,000 women, imprisoned by Cambridge University in the 19th Century. I have read the book by Biggs (The Spinning House) but was underwhelmed as a result of her stylistic narrative choices. I am all for this sort of project.
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Hmmmm. While I would certainly agree that female desire is not taken seriously enough: A very paternalistic attitude’: why is female desire still not taken seriously?, I am massively, massively, massively cynical about the potential of the 'pink pill' or female viagra as I had several posts here some years back about the very unprepossessing results produced*. In particular I adduce this link to the ever sensible Dr Petra Boynton's thoughts. Is this just being bigged up by pharma entrepreneurs???
*And, of course, the notion that you can fix women's libidos with a magic bullet pill.
Kakuriyo: Bed & Breakfast for Spirits, Vol. 11
Mar. 8th, 2026 11:56 pmAnd so we begin in medias res -- spoilers ahead for the earlier volumes
( Read more... )
Ethics of Harry Potter?
Mar. 8th, 2026 09:54 pmSubmitted a grocery order. I decided to open packages.
Bella ran out when I went to let Gracie in. Sigh. Finally got them both in because Gracie was hungry. Got my grocery order, including the all-important cat food.
For some reason, I’ve been thinking of my last technical writing job. My mom blamed me for losing it, but I had two major mental health relapses while I was there. I flat-out couldn’t do the job. Not a good time in my life.
I read
Took another nap and had a hell of a time waking up. I’m sitting trying to get the energy to take a shower.
My dad managed to criticize Trump indirectly without criticizing him directly. The direct criticism would be that Trump is creating a volatile and bad environment for business. This makes me wonder if his wife’s kids are Trumpers. Maybe his wife is a Trumper. (My dad is listing reasons why he thinks that there will be a recession.)
Managed to get my lazy butt in the shower and clean clothes. I do feel better.
I’ve got the new cat bed, and I need to set it up before I go to sleep. It has a clamp that goes on a desk, and it is elevated. I also got the new Birdie and Louie food for Zara. We’ll see if she likes it. Hmm, Birdie and Louie also makes dog food. But the girls are stable on what they’re eating, so I don’t need to buy more expensive food. Zara seems to like the new food.
Put a fresh litter box in Zara's room. I saw a knee brace that I want to get, but I couldn't find my measuring tape to see if it'll fit. I ordered measuring tapes and saved the knee brace for later.
I don’t know how it got so late, except for the time change. I should post and start wending my way towards bed.
Just one thing: 09 March 2026
Mar. 8th, 2026 09:49 pmComment with Just One Thing you've accomplished in the last 24 hours or so. It doesn't have to be a hard thing, or even a thing that you think is particularly awesome. Just a thing that you did.
Feel free to share more than one thing if you're feeling particularly accomplished!
Extra credit: find someone in the comments and give them props for what they achieved!
Nothing is too big, too small, too strange or too cryptic. And in case you'd rather do this in private, anonymous comments are screened. I will only unscreen if you ask me to.
Go!
it's the vibe of a sunday six even if it's more than six sentences
Mar. 8th, 2026 08:21 pmQuail and Olive’s does serve both quail and olives, but turns out to be named for the proprietors, a married Orcish couple who tease them about being on a date until Rhei waves their hands and says “We’re friends” in an exasperated tone that, wonder of wonders, convinces them it’s true.
Later, most of what Mouse remembers is that Rhei keeps pushing more onto Mouse’s plate and hands them the wrapped bag of leftovers—“to share with your father”—because they had ordered far more than it was possible for two people to eat. Mouse doesn’t remember the taste, just the warm light and the way Rhei banters with Olive and smiles at Mouse, including them even though Mouse barely speaks aloud, too overwhelmed by the richness of the food and the way they’re assumed to be a person and not a slave.
Rhei leads them back through Adrium’s streets, calling a glowing orb to their hand to light their path. At Mouse’s start—Adrium is not a city of mages but a city of merchants—Rhei says, “Elf blood,” rather apologetically. “El sighs over the odd array of spells I’ve learned to cast, but light is useful and not too hard.”
“I wouldn’t know,” Mouse says, because Rhei seems to expect some response.
“If you want to learn, you can. Not from me,” Rhei adds a moment later, laughing. “I’d be shit at teaching magic. But Tsarra—she’s the magic-user on retainer at the House—or El probably could teach you the basics. Don’t worry about it right now, there’s no rush, but— It’s an option, should you desire it.”
Desire is something too big for Mouse to consider right now. They’ve desired little things in the past—clean new clothes, a full night’s rest, a piece of cake—but the only big thing they could think of is the freedom they have just begun to attain. They nod, say nothing, and let the strange feeling of possibility bubble through their chest. It feels like anxiety and anticipation, and Mouse can’t look too closely at anything but the longing to see their father again.
(otherwise: work is work, school takes too much time and is sometimes very visibly "we need to say you've been in this building for X number of hours" more than "we have specific things to teach you", and Daylight Savings Time stealing an hour throws off my bodyclock so much.)
Healthcare success
Mar. 8th, 2026 10:12 pmThis will be short because I need to go to bed, but I wanted to say -- particularly for our mutual friends here -- that D had his operation today; it all went just as planned (in his family group chat, his mum his back-on-the-ward selfie looked a bit woozy, and yes, but also he looked just like that before the op because he had to be there at 7 this morning!) and smoothly. He's home, tired and sore but able to watch TV, play video games, eat dinner, watch baseball with me. It's been a nice evening.
( Boring )
I didn't get as much done today as I might have hoped, but I did a good job of prioritizing what needed to happen today vs. what can wait until tomorrow. Really hoping I get better sleep tonight; it's been kinda shitty for a couple weeks and that takes its toll on everything else; I've had a low-grade headache most of the day and I think it's largely the broken sleep and weird dreams.
Culinary
Mar. 8th, 2026 07:22 pmThis week's bread: a loaf of Marriage's Organic Country Fayre Malted Brown Bread Flour: quite nice but turned out a bit crumbly??
Friday night supper: ersatz Thai fried rice with chopped red bell pepper and chorizo.
Saturday breakfast rolls: Tassajarra method, strong brown flour, a spot of Rayner's barley malt extract, cinnamon, raisins, okay (cinnamon a bit past its BBF).
Today's lunch: a pie (bought-in puff pastry) of silken tofu + baby spinach + fresh coriander and flat leaf parsley + garlic - okay, but perhaps a little bland; served with steamed asparagus splashed with melted butter with lime juice and lime zest, and padron peppers.
outfoxing myself
Mar. 8th, 2026 09:42 amI woke up this morning at 4 and then rolled over until 6:30 when I finally got up to realize that the ceiling clock I was looking at is the one I forgot to change so it was really 7:30. hahah. My bed says my sleep score for last night was 97.
And then I realized my wall calendar was still February. It never ends!!!
It's foggy and rainy so my swim was wonderful. No glare through the windows. The weather report says it's going to be that way all week.
No plans for today at all. I may do a load of laundry but I also may not. I wasn't particularly hungry for dinner last night so I have excellent leftovers for today.
I decided to move the few keep papers I have from storage into the house. I have a wonderful little 3 drawer thing in my entry way and I toyed with replacing it with a file cabinet but decided against it. These are the times I wish Seattle Goodwill was closer or I was not as lazy. But I ended up ordering these little rattan file holders. They are overpriced but they will be easy to slip into small spaces and should hold all I need.
Guess I'd better go flip to March before I forget again.
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Mar. 8th, 2026 03:02 pmThis renovation project has taken longer than we expected, as we ran into some significant delays due to Christmas, illness, and family emergencies. But today we moved my desk back in, Husband mounted the new ceiling lamp and the curtains and we also moved the chair back in. New cupboards and the rest of the furniture will have to wait a bit longer, because it seems easier to buy and get the new stuff in first and move the rest of the existing afterwards. We have managed to reclaim a bit of our lounge.
I have a picture up of the progress so far on Pillowfort. Never mind the untidy desk, things were just sort of piled back on it randomly.
I did have to come up with plan B, though, because it turned out that with the rug I initially wanted under the desk, there wouldn't be enough room for the bookcases. The conclusion was that it was just not possible with the rug I had in mind to puzzle things in, in any way that didn't mean having to give up something. So I decided to give up the rug.
This decision was also helped by several quite recent reviews on Ikea's website about it not being cut straight. Not encouraging! I shall go without the rug for now and keep the dreaded floor protecter, and then if I later find I actually do want one after all, I'll go somewhere I can have it cut to measure instead. It'll be significantly more expensive, but probably a better quality and fit all in all.